Emotionally Attached: Breaking the Attachment

Perhaps because a lot of what I write is romance, I tend to be an emotional writer.
Maybe it has nothing to do with what I write.
Maybe it’s just that I get attached to the characters as I get to know them. I identify with them, have trouble seeing their flaws, and sometimes develop an unhealthy co-dependence on them. I want my characters to be feisty and well-loved.
Unfortunately, I am aware, logically that such an attachment is unhealthy. It leads some writers to do really stupid things like rant at reviewers or argue with people about the quality of their books. It leads some tosay nasty things to agents or publishers who reject them and it prevents growth in almost all of us.
It also, and this is the big one for me, keeps us from learning lessons and moving on.
About six years ago when I was stumbling trying to finish my first novel (which I still haven’t accomplished), my husband challenged me to write a short story, to work on plotting and character development and finish something.
I poured my heart into that story, my first zombie story, and I thought it was pretty good.
My beloved friends told me it was good, gave them shivers. But every editor I’ve ever had look at it is far less impressed.
It’s wordy. It tells rather than showing. It’s too long for the payoff at the end.
And, the basic idea behind it has been used by Hollywood to make a really bad Matt Damon movie. The similarities are superficial, but are probably enough that no one will ever want my story.
But every one in awhile, I drag it out anyway, tweak it a little, read it and lament that all those editors had no idea what they were talking about.
They truly did, but I am emotionally attached to the story. I’m trying to figure out how to break the attachment, to let it go and concentrate on better things.
Any suggestions how I do that?

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